When a very close friend reacted with near speechlessness to my menu-, schedule- and list-free state one week before hosting Thanksgiving, I calmly said to him, “Good enough is going to have to be good enough." Not only was good enough good enough, but believing it was kept me as calm and centered over the holiday as the most perfectly-planned plan.
Acceptance is a big part of living your yoga. It can be tough to pull off during challenging times because it is easily misunderstood. Acceptance is not quitting. Acceptance is not saying, “I’m doomed.” Acceptance does not make a tough moment “forever” any more than the most wonderful moments of your life have lasted forever. Acceptance is simply the willingness to work with what you’ve got. To take the next step – and then the next and the next and the next. Acceptance is choosing to roll with whatever life has brought your way with creativity and grace and the faith that life holds many more twists and turns in store for you.
It might seem obvious that bringing a dream to life can take hard work and careful planning. Be careful! Your plans and work ethic can easily kill a dream. Creating a dream come true requires patience in and contentment with the process that might make no sense, a willingness to let your dream go its own way at times, and the ability to maintain your dual roles as both dreamer and a creator.
If a coming change has you an emotional wreck like my looming empty nest has me, it's OK. Every change and shift in life is an opportunity to practice letting go. It is by letting go that we stay open to change. It is by being open to change that we allow ourselves to change. The opposite is also true. When we resist or fight change, we eliminate the possibility for our own growth. So join me in opening your arms wide to let go and embrace all that life is bringing your way!
It is easy to forget that the yoga postures themselves are not the point of yoga. They are a means to an end. We jump around on our yoga mats NOT to get better at contorting ourselves into fantastic positions. We do it to quiet our minds. And we quiet our minds to find peace, to find comfort with stillness, to delve into the depths of our being.
Are endings hard for you? If you get bogged down feeling sad in times of transition, shifting your focus to the new beginning that is hiding in every ending can help boost your outlook and enthusiasm for life's changes.
Traveling is a sure way to bring out our inner control freak or our inner Zen. But even when we can't let go, finding a way to let it be often reveals unexpected delights!
Being willing to let go of your expert status frees you for unlimited growth. It empowers you to listen and to think when someone asks “Why?” – not to defend the way you do things but with a beginner’s true, open-minded curiosity. Being willing to not be an expert enables you to continue to stretch into your potential.
A yoga teacher I respect once criticized me for working too hard. While I still consider hard work to be one of my superpowers, years later I understand what she was trying to teach me. Shifting gears to work smarter rather than harder can make it possible to do what you're doing for the rest of your life.